Get Your Subconscious Mind On Your Side
I’m so excited for you to be here! The first secret I want to share is something most of the dieting industry doesn’t want you to know: you are way more powerful than you think, and your body wants to get lean naturally.
We just need to remove what’s in its way — processed foods that are too high in calorie density, heavy chemicals, and unhelpful habits rooted in old programming we picked up from people who were equally disempowered and confused.
The good news is that now we have powerful tools available that allow us to break free and reclaim our freedom, health, and lean, beautiful bodies.
Let’s start this journey with a few simple but crucial steps.
Step 1. Start a digital or paper journal
This is the beginning of one of the most magical adventures of your life! And you’ll want to capture the details — because one day you may guide others on a similar journey, or you may need to gently bring yourself back on track later.
So let’s start your secret adventure journal. Keep it super handy, easy to jot things down in.
- Apps I love: Notion and Day One (iPhone), or find an Android version you like.
- You can also use a simple paper notebook.
- For quick notes, the Wispr Flow app lets you whisper your thoughts into your phone and turns them into text.
Choose whatever feels best for you.
Step 2. Open your eyes to your own awesomeness
Every person is always doing their absolute best. It just doesn’t always look that way, because most of us picked up subconscious beliefs in childhood from parents or caregivers who were also doing their best, but often from a place of confusion or disempowerment.
Even when you were binging on the third box of fatty, processed ice cream — you were still doing your best, based on the beliefs and tools you had at the time. You were trying to calm yourself in the only way you knew.
Now, you’ll discover new ways to release the stress that drives those moments, so you won’t need to reach for food to soothe yourself.
You are also a powerful creator. The reason you’ve manifested a body and habits you’re not proud of is because you shaped a vision of yourself based on disempowering programming from your past. (And it’s not your caregivers’ fault — they were doing their best, too.)
Now, you get to create from a new place — empowered, conscious, and free.
This means letting go of self-blame and shame. It means releasing the blame of others. And it means embracing self-agency: realizing you have the power to shape your reality.
Even the coping strategies that feel most destructive were doing their best to protect you from breaking down. You can thank them for how they helped, and then choose new ones.
Gratitude and forgiveness — toward yourself and others — open the door for healthier choices. From this place, you naturally feel drawn to foods that nourish rather than numb. You pause before a craving wave sweeps you away. You give yourself permission to move, breathe, and let emotions flow through and out of your body — instead of storing them in your body or drowning them in food.
Why this works (the quick science, in plain English)
- Processed food + stress shift your weight range. When the body is flooded with highly processed foods and chronic stress, it tends to hold onto a higher weight. When you switch to whole, lower-calorie-density foods and replace chronic stress with short, healthy stress + relaxation, the body naturally shifts to a leaner, healthier range. NCBI
- Self-compassion improves self-regulation. People who respond to lapses with kindness recover faster and make better choices than those who spiral into shame. In weight programs, self-compassion predicts better long-term results. Self-Compassion
- Body-first calming unlocks change. Brief somatic releases (shaking hands, sighing, dropping shoulders) quickly reduce stress and make healthier choices easier. PMC
- Visualization sticks better after calming the body. Research shows that when visualization is paired with emotional regulation, new habits form more effectively on the subconscious level. PMC
In short: when you meet yourself with kindness, release tension with somatic exercises, and picture yourself lean and free, your subconscious and body work together to make it real.
A gentle reframe of your past
If you’ve carried extra weight, binged, overeaten at night, or lived on caffeine and willpower — there were reasons. Maybe food calmed your anxiety. Maybe strict dieting rules made you rebel. Maybe you learned early that success meant pressure, so your body slowed you down the only way it knew how.
Seen with compassion, your history makes sense. And if it makes sense, it can change.
Today’s practice
Give yourself about 15–20 minutes. Keep it simple.
- Celebrate your power. Write down 3 things you’ve manifested in your life that you’re proud of, no matter how small.
- Bring compassion to struggle. Write down 3 things you’ve manifested that you’d like to change.
- Spot the habits. Which 1–3 coping strategies created those results?
- Thank the old strategy. For the biggest one, write:
- How did this try to help me?
- What did it protect me from?Then add: “Thank you for helping me cope. I’m choosing a more empowering way now.”(This doesn’t excuse the behavior; it removes the shame that keeps it stuck.)
- Body release (3–7 minutes).
- Notice where you feel tension as you think about that strategy.
- Let your body move how it wants: shake, stomp, scream into a pillow, dance it out.
- Finish with a sigh, unclench your jaw, and soften your belly.
- Notice the extra space inside.
- Visualize your freedom.
- See your past self. Give them a hug. Say, “You did your best. Thank you.”
- Imagine the heavy tension dissolving into warm, bright light — the light of kindness and forgiveness.
- See your new self: free, relaxed, confident. Stress flows through you instead of getting stuck. Food is no longer your only comfort.
- Picture your body growing lighter, leaner, stronger, healthier. Let this version of you come closer, give it a hug, and merge with you.
- Don’t worry about doing it perfectly. Repeat as often as you need.
- One small act of new freedom. Choose one tiny step today:
- Take a breath before dinner and ask: Is this the best food for my body today?
- Notice a craving moment, breathe, smile, and if you still eat, savor it with gratitude.
- Relax your shoulders at mealtime and notice how it feels.
- Or choose another step that feels natural.
Let go of doing it perfectly. Focus on kindness like a muscle you can grow.
When the “what ifs” show up
- “What if I can’t keep this up?”You won’t keep everything up. That’s normal. We’re building a rhythm, not a rulebook. When you wobble, come back to one small act of kindness.
- “What if my body never changes?”Bodies are responsive when chronic stress is lowered and safety increases. Your job is to create the conditions: less blame, more nourishment, more kindness. Your body will respond.
- “What if I mess up tonight?”Meet it with truth and kindness: “I was tired and reached for comfort. That’s okay. What’s one supportive thing I can do next?” Then do that one thing.
What you’re anchoring this week
- I am not broken. I was adapting.
- Empowerment is love telling the truth — I am not to blame.
- My body wants to be lean; I’m removing what blocks it.
- Small, kind actions move me forward; harsh rules hold me back.
Anchor phrase (say it out loud)
“I manifested this in survival mode. Now I have the freedom to manifest something new.”